so, kalei's going to school has definitely brought up some separation anxiety... in me. :) she's doing fabulously and loves school and is learning about the letter A and eating lunch with her friends (although she doesn't know their names, yet) and eating snack and playing on the playground (not this week, though, because we have a heat advisory) and singing songs and coloring and just loving it. i am remembering the 5 elementary schools and 2 middle schools i went to and hoping with all my might that the other kids will be nice. that's it. that's my worry and wish for her. i know she'll have no problems learning what she needs to know. i know the staff at the school will make sure she gets to wherever she needs to be. i just want the other kids to be nice. i want her to find some good friends. i remember each time we moved (dad went back to school when i was little, so we moved for his residencies and then with jobs), i wasn't worried about me - i worried for my brother. would josh make friends? would somebody sit by him at lunch? of course, looking back, these were silly worries. josh made friends easily. but at the time, they were very real. i'm not as consumed now as i was then, but the start of school has definitely made me remember. i'm sure my worries are as silly now as they were then. kalei is bright and happy and friendly. but, still, in the back of my head, i pray that the other kids will be nice...
-bess
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My same fear with Ilima. Mainly the socialization part - not the intellectual part.
probably every parent's fear! kalai has always made friend easily but i worried about her because she has always been on the shy side. i remember one day soon after kindergarten started that she came home sad because the one girl she called her friend wouldn't play with her. so i gave her a hug and told her that she didn't have to play with only her (a new concept). if she didn't want to play, go look for someone else. there were lots of kids out there who needed someone to be a good friend to them and that was something she could do. never again has the issue ever come up. i think she realized that she didn't need to wait for people to come to her and be nice to her. she could be the one going to other kids and being nice - something she hadn't realized. being so kind hearted, she like the idea of being able to help someone else be happy by being a friend to them. i think this has also helped her not feel like she needs to be part of a certain crowd - hopefully it will carry over into her teen years too! sorry for the rambling!
i hope kalei learns to be independent and confident like kalai seems to be. :)
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